Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; the Respect He Desperately Needs Paperback – International Edition, January 1, 2012

Bought this book last week and I was so engrossed that I finished it around 5 days. I gave it to my wife to read and asked her to give it to her parents after she finished, so they can improve their marriage as well. I just wish that I had found this 13 years ago. Thank u Dr Eggerichs.

Summary: I was recommended this book by a God loving and staunch Christian brother. Before writing this review, and AFTER completely reading the book, I decided to read some of the reviews, mostly the negative ones, so see what reviewers were saying, and what I found was completely 180 degrees out from my conclusion.Observations: The cornerstone Bible verse of this book is Ephesians 5:33. The book is organized into three sections, and the 3rd section concludes that it is one's personal relationship with God that enables a marriage to overcome the trials and tribulations of this world (one negative review said it's not about Jesus, I don't understand that comment in light of section 3).If you read this with an open mind and heart, and a desire to glorify God in your marriage, the Holy Spirit will reveal truth to you. For those with a closed mind, and hardened heart, this verse comes to mind:"They do not know, nor do they understand, for He has smeared over their eyes so that they cannot see and their hearts so that they will have no insight." Isaiah 44:18 LSBStandard (hardcover) vs. Deluxe (paperback, including workbook): I ordered a few extra copies to give away, and decided to order the paperback, and was pleased to find that there is a deluxe edition, which includes a workbook.Conclusion: Rating this book 5-stars, and highly recommended. Mr. Emerson's work in this area is truly an answer to a calling to build up the Body of Christ, through strong marriages, which enable strong families, which enables strong churches, which enables strong communities.

I love this book because it removes the mystery of communication between men and women in a huge way. I've heard all my life how utterly different men and women are, and I've heard much more about how men seem to be more lacking in understanding. I used to joke and make comments about 'poor men' which I'm sure was immediately picked up as being disrespectful. I didn't really understand what I was doing as I was still very young, but I'm glad I eventually dropped that habit. I give the credit to God because I believe His Spirit was at work in my heart changing the way I treated and thought about guys, without my understand why. I went through some painful, lonely seasons of life where I didn't know what to say to certain people present in my life, all I felt led to do was keep my mouth closed because everything I WANTED to say would have been disrespectful and offensive. I'm glad for the wisdom of God that kept me and delivered me from such a disrespectful attitude, when I didn't even know what was going on.This book was recommended to me by a woman who became my close friend on the missions field. She was a very wise woman who was married with children, both she and her husband in the ministry, with many years of marriage already behind them, and their relationship just "glowed". There was something about them that just drew me in. I am at the age where I could meet someone and be married within a short period of time, and she was so loving and patient in explaining many of these principles and why they were so, then said if I could read any book on marriage this would be the one to read.I recommend this book for everyone. I am still single, with no marriage partner even on the radar, but I feel this book has been so helpful in explaining the inner workings of both men and women that anyone old enough to consider having a boyfriend or girlfriend SHOULD read this book. It really removes the mystery of how to talk to people and proves over and over again that doing things in a loving and respectful manner will bring rewards for everyone. I especially recommend this book to those that have not yet graduated high school. This is quite the education! And will bless them far more than any academics they can learn at school. These are life lessons of an incalculable nature. Priceless.Thanks again to Dr. Eggerichs for blessing us with his experience and the wisdom he was given.

Absolutley amazing book....literally saved my marriage!!! So much common sense is shown in this book, and other ways of seeing situations, that it is a real eye opener, and humbles you when you realise where you have gone wrong, but it also shows you that things can easily be turned roound and made a million times better than you could ever have expected, i have lent my copy out several times and each person has been amazed by how easy it is to misinterpret situations, well worth reading, even if your marriage isnt in trouble, this book can make it even better

I don't normally read these types of books. But it was recommended by my church deacon. I am finding the book easy to read and insightful. It has made laugh and think...and although my husband said its not for him the tit bits I share his response so far has been "that's right" every time. It has even helped me understand my husband in a way that he probably wouldn't be able articulate unless he was upset at which piont I've probably switched off.

This is a great book. It explains how best to communicate with your partner and why we get into arguments. Also how your partner sees a situation differently than you and why they do. How to love your wife (not sexually) and how to show your husband respect. Women, you may think you don't but you do! Also some handy advice at the back of the book, with questions to ask yourself.

This book is excellent and I wish I could get it in every home. Even if you're single, the principles in the book will help in all kinds of relationships - coworkers, parents, children, siblings, friends, etc.I think that this is one of the wisest books any married or engaged couple could ever read together. Knowing how to feed our deepest needs is vital to a healthy & happy relationship. If we are inadvertently stopping on the things that mean most to us, we are going nowhere healthy fast. I love it!

After reading 3 chapters, this book contains nothing but absolute, entry level basic common sense. Jesus, the bible and:or God has been mentioned on almost every page, often out of context to the content or just show horned in there to ensure some biblical reference. If you want to improve your relationship with your husband or wife, just spend time with them rather than reading this book or completing the poorly constructed workbook.