Amaryllis Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

"Besides, aren't therapists, of all people, supposed to have their lives together?”As I turn the last page of the book, there's this sort of lightness in my chest and dampness on my face. I can't help smiling and ruminate about what a therapeutic experienced l'd.As opposed to what pop culture might make us believe, therapy is not about just lying on the couch, spilling out everything to a therapist. Therapy is a process, an arduous journey. There needs to be an establishment of some sort of trust first and a therapist is not a vending machine, that they give an answer on the platter on Day 1.Why are we so scared of discussing our mental state of mind, the invisible storm brewing in our heads but are quick to divulge our physical health issues and even sex lives? is what Lori starts of with.Through the medium of her 4 clients, their lives and painful experiences, along with her own experience with therapy, Lori Gottlieb, a psychotherapist, weaves an utterly human narrative, peeling back layers in order to help her patients reach the deepest and darkest parts of themselves and the deep rooted insecurities, which they are too afraid to confront. She gently steers them in the right direction, making them make sense of their jumbled up thought processes, helping them overcome the obstacles and convincing them that their worth is not associated with the choices they've made. In this manner, she compels the readers to the same.She gives us a glimpse into the nature of a therapist's workings, as well as what people perceive of her, teaching us a lot about compassion and empathy, not only with others but also ourselves, and making us understand our relationship with others around us. She also touches upon the topic of seeking therapy on the basis of gender, in a patriarchal society like ours.It's an absolutely riveting and intimate book, eloquently put together, relatable and hilarious, making you either laugh out loud or chuckling ever so often and making you feel all sorts of emotions as you cheer for everyone in the book and is not at all preachy. She even touches upon a few disorders and common terms in therapy, explaining them quite succinctly and theories by certain scholars."As I heal inside, I'm also becoming more adept at healing others.”In the end I would just like to sayYou are validYou matterYou are enoughYou are appreciated and loved.Whatever you are going through right now, will pass soon so just hang in there and keep fighting and going after things you want.Please do seek help if you feel like.

"A therapist narrates her life and the lives of her patients as she leaves us with wisdom and helps the readers find themselves in between the pages."This book is probably one of those well narrated books you can never get enough of. The author/narrator who is a therapist too, has a lot to say and a lot to give you in the form of this book. You will probably wish that the book never ends. But it does end and you close it with heavy emotions as if you have spent a lifetime in it. It has stories to narrate from the author's pov and how her patients feel about life which hits you like a train at times. The words in this book have the potential to make you feel less alone and also to shatter you (not in a wrong way) at the same time.It's rare to find such a vulnerable piece of art nowadays, the way our lives are revealed in the book makes it worth the read. The book has tons of wisdom to offer. You are not going to get over this book with empty hands. Sometimes, I have found myself relating my life with the events in the book. None of the character is hard to relate. None of the story seems like far fetched. It's all very real and very pure. This book is the definition of perfection in my opinion. Apart from that, it is valuable for the people working in the field of psychology. So many insights, so many wonderful details.This book came as a blessing in disguise for me. I needed this book and I am glad that I read it at the right time in my life. I wouldn't have understood or related to a single word had it not been for this year.I'd rate it a 5/5. Do read it some day in life, if you get time. I promise you won't regret it.Especially in the times we are living in, where there is just so much to grieve about, I would suggest you to please read this book.Thank you to the author for writing this book! I really look forward to the next book by her!! 💗

Viene un poco maltratado, pero eso no es algo que a mí me moleste

A good book always goes with entertainment, and also with some takeaways for thereader.What if,if the takeaways are seeing yourself today in some better form than yesterday?What if,the things that were plaguing you for long, like the unfortunate incidents or memories of your childhood or that of your past that comes to the surface through which you were battling for months,years & even decades & where you could see a reason for the cause & effect & through which,stand a chance of triggering a pleasant present and what if, the reader is definitely going to feel some positive vibes after reading the book,then you should read," Maybe you should talk to someone" by Lori Gottlieb and, I ask & say as, 'maybe everyone should read'.the book.The writer, who is also a successful psychotherapist, says that most of us are going through many problems in our life and the irony is that we don't understand that we have a problem and thus, stay remain in that confused state & move on aimlessly, unless we get some good advice or some good therapeutic help. The writer takes examples of different kinds of patients seeking therapeutic help from her, while also putting forward her own dilemma & confusion when her boyfriend left her & which filled her life with void & helplessness. She also couldn't move an inch about the book she wished to write for long.While being in that state, and luckily, on the suggestion of her therapeutic friend and colleague, she could seek therapeutic help from one "Mr.Wendell",of whom we learn as one of the best and also a successful therapist during the course of our reading.The conversations between both the therapists that goes in silence with out uttering a word between them looked powerfully therapeutic and besides the humor that goes between them which also says a lot without uttering much.The song by Imagine Dragons,"Top of the world", gives you the feeling of reading a romantic fiction.The quote of Viktor Frankl,"Between stimulus and......."mentioned in the book is too good and thoughtful. The vulnerabilities of a patient as a therapist and also that of a therapist with other therapist, along with their sense & sensibilities seeking therapeutic help before and during the course of treatment, are both informative and therapeutic for the reader.The genuineness as a writer,as a therapist & above all as a good human being is reflected in the entire book.As a matter of fact , my own, vulnerabilities also came to the fore & reflected ,after reading the book, which I need to look in.The story of John & Margo, whose son 'Gabe',dies in a car accident while on their way to holiday trip during the couples' argument leaves them guilty & devastated for long and forcing them to seek therapeutic help for both.The last words of Gabe "Daddyyyyyyyyy...."Just before the accident is poignant & reflects emotional feelings of both the patient and therapist.So, also the story of Julie,who dies bravely fighting with cancer and who sought therapeutic help from the writer,is no less heart touching.The progress of the relation turning from therapist- patient to that of a strong friendship between them is down to earth and humane ,before the writer realizes which is reflected when she recalls her memory at her funeral " I remember her the most in silence".The stories of Charlotte and the dude are both humorous and interesting.Also, the stories of Rita,her family life, and her struggle of going through multiple marriages and divorces throw good light on the various disputes between a couple and after effects that goes with them.Above all the conversations between Wendell,the therapist and Lori,brings out the best humor,a perfect therapeutic treatment and also reflects the ethics of the profession.Enjoyed reading an outstanding book while taking away the best tips for development of self.

everyone should read this book