From Mother to Son by Eggerichs Emerson (2016-05-19) Paperback Bunko

It's my stupid fault for not taking enough time over the purchase, but this book is written by a God botherer and won't go down well in the UK.It's basically used by the author as an opportunity to preach about God, with some parenting tips thrown in to try and make people think it's useful.I bought it for my wife for Mother's Day but it'll be going straight back where it came from.

My son and I were always close, so when our relationship began to break down, I was mortified. The more I tried to “fix” things the more distant he became. He began to fight back. It was as if he couldn’t breathe, but didn’t know why.God brought this book into our lives. I read it and shared portions of it with him. It was like a light went on for both of us. He knew I loved him, but he desperately needed to know I respected the man inside him. I don’t pretend to “get it”, but I have seen the blessings of accepting that men (and there is indeed a man inside every boy) speak a different language than I do.One reviewer sadly claimed that this was a dangerous message. Nothing could be farther from the truth. In the past 4 years, I have watched my son grow from a struggling teen to a confident young man and our relationship is truly a gift from God!Like everything in this broken world, I suppose the message of respect can and will be corrupted by sinful individuals, but let’s not throw out this nugget out of fear that some narcissist may misuse it.Every woman who has a boy or young man in her life needs to read this book. Take it in the understanding that God created us male and female and together we are created in His image.Ladies, I stand as witness that if you will open your heart by trying to understand your boys’ language, they will open their hearts to you.I speak as a mother, as a teacher, and as part of the church family. Learn the language and you will be blessed as you see boys blossom into Christlike men.

Excellent book. Eye opener on how to create a good relationship with my sons.

“This book is about a mother going beyond her love and applying respect to the heart of her son” (Back cover). “This book explains the attributes of the masculine soul . . . [and] helps the mom hear a precious and endearing message: ‘I am just a boy, standing in front of his mother, asking her to respect him” (Page 3).The author approaches the subject matter from a Christian point of view. He supports his thesis primarily from the Bible’s teaching and validates his findings using research data and personal anecdotes. Chapter 3 provides the content’s framework, which subsequent chapters further expound. “What does God expect of a mother? Does the Bible disclose His will to her in relationship to her son? Yes, God calls you to do six things as a mother:1. Give so a child’s basic physical needs can be met.2. Understand so a child is not provoked or exasperated.3. Instruct so your child can know and apply God’s wisdom.4. Discipline so your child can correct poor choices.5. Encourage so your child can courageously develop God-given gifts.6. Supplicate in prayer so your child can experience God’s touch and truth.I put these in an acronym called G.U.I.D.E.S.” (Page 35). Later on in the same chapter, Dr. Eggerichs states, “Simply stated, G.U.I.D.E.S. is your road map for Respect-Talk. You are essentially telling your son, ‘I seek to Give, Understand, Instruct, Discipline, Encourage, and Supplicate because I respect you’” (Page 48).I found “Mother and Son” sound in its teaching and simple to apply. Written primarily for moms of sons, dads too can benefit by reading and heeding its counsel. I highly recommend it.

Fui surpreendida com conceitos que não conhecia ao entrar em contato com esse autor. Estou amando todas as obras dele e recomendo a todas as mães que possuem filhos homens. Maravilhoso.

As I have watched so many sons become distant with their moms in adulthood, I felt a need to see if that could be changed with my own son. We have a great relationship, but as he enters his teen years I wanted to continue that as best I could. I became aware of the book bascially by chance while listening to another podcast. Having heard the author before and having read some of his materials I knew that respect is necessary for most men. However, I had not ever thought of the "man inside the boy." I feel like I alreay do many of these actions, but without the vocabulary. This book gives lots of examples with sample scripts and ideas. It is a quick simple read. I find that in all reality the respect in discplining and guiding boys will also be effective for the females in your life. I would recommend this book for parents of toddlers all the way to adulthood. If your relationship with your adult son is strained it can help you improve it even though it may take a great deal of time. If your son is young, start early. Better to build the man from the start than to rebuld him if he feels torn down.